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How to Describe an Old Lady in a Story

By Isobel Coughlan

how to describe an old lady in a story

If a character in your novel is an elderly woman and you need some tips on how to write her, this post is for you. Read on and weโ€™ll show you to how to describe an old lady in a story.

 

1. Gentle

Definition

Someone calm, kind, or mild.

Examples

โ€œTo everyoneโ€™s surprise, the old lady was gentle in speech and behavior. Her guests then felt bad about judging her before she spoke.โ€

โ€œThe gentle old lady always carried boiled sweets for the young children in the village.โ€

How it Adds Description

If you want to portray an old lady who is kind and compassionate, the word โ€œgentleโ€ can fit. This implies that the lady isnโ€™t nasty or scary, and because of this, other characters might be drawn to her and her โ€œgentleโ€ disposition. Because of this, a character might go to her for comfort or if they need cheering up.

 

2. Ancient

Definition

To be very old or linked with the distant past.

Examples

โ€œThe kids thought the old lady was ancient, but sheโ€™d only just celebrated her 60th birthday.โ€

โ€œMaria celebrated her 99th birthday with her many grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Seeing her younger family all at once made her feel like anย ancientย old lady.โ€

How it Adds Description

You can stress your old ladyโ€™s age by using the adjective โ€œancient.โ€ This word is linked to very old things and the distant past, and you can use it to emphasize how old the lady feels or appears to others. An old lady who is deemed to be โ€œancientโ€ is also likely to display many physical signs of aging (e.g., creaking bones or wrinkled skin), which show sheโ€™s spent longer on Earth than others.

 

3. Wise

Definition

Someone able to use their experience to make sensible judgments or decisions.

Examples

โ€œMaurine may have been 80, but she still didnโ€™t feel wise. In fact, she wished sheโ€™d learned more in her life.โ€

โ€œAs Mary aged, she became wiser and always offered her counsel to her daughters.โ€

How it Adds Description

Age and wisdom are often linked, and if your fictional old lady is particularly clever or sensible, you can describe them as โ€œwise.โ€ โ€œWiseโ€ old ladies often attract characters who need advice or are lost. Therefore, your protagonist might visit an old lady for help if they become stuck on their journey.

 

4. Friendly

Definition

Someone who is pleasant and kind and likes to be around other people.

Examples

โ€œIn her younger years, Alicent was cold and cruel. But time had transformed her into a friendly old lady.โ€

โ€œEvery morning, Jacob walks past the friendly old ladyโ€™s window and waves to her. She really brightens his day.โ€

How it Adds Description

โ€œFriendlyโ€ shows that the old lady is happy to connect with other people, which implies that she has a kind manner and is likely more extroverted. Her โ€œfriendlyโ€ personality might make her popular with others, as sheโ€™s happy to chat with anyone and can easily break the ice in awkward situations.

 

5. Wrinkled

Definition

To have deep lines or creases on the skin.

Examples

โ€œThe wrinkled old lady was not ashamed of her age. She wore her years of experience with pride.โ€

โ€œLook at me! Iโ€™m wrinkled like an old lady! I need some anti-aging cream ASAP.โ€

How it Adds Description

You can describe your old ladyโ€™s physical appearance as โ€œwrinkledโ€ if she has obvious signs of aging on her face (e.g., deep wrinkles and creases). This will make her age obvious to other characters, and therefore, some may treat her with more respect or care because they know sheโ€™s older and wiser.

 

6. Cold

Definition

Someone who shows little emotion or affection.

Examples

โ€œMy grandmother was a cold old lady. I donโ€™t think she ever hugged any of her grandchildren.โ€

โ€œMartha didnโ€™t want the youngsters to perceive her as a cold old lady, so she went out of her way to smile at everyone.โ€

How it Adds Description

Some old ladies might not be very friendly, and if they lack emotion or affection, you can describe them as โ€œcold.โ€ A โ€œcoldโ€ character might reject physical embraces, avoid talking about their feelings, and often be rude to others. This will likely make them unpopular, as they don’t offer any positivity to social interactions, and may often make them worse with their negative attitude.

 

7. Creepy

Definition

Someone who frightens others and makes them feel nervous.

Examples

โ€œIโ€™m not lying! I saw a spider hanging out of the creepy old ladyโ€™s mouth.โ€

โ€œThe creepy old lady shuffled to the bus stop while glaring at every passerby.โ€

How it Adds Description

If your old lady character scares others or has a strange vibe about her, you can use โ€œcreepyโ€ to describe her. This shows that she behaves in an odd way, or it can imply that her physical appearance is scary or unusual. Some characters might be afraid of her, especially if theyโ€™ve never met her before or if she takes them by surprise.

 

8. Somber

Definition

To be sad or serious.

Examples

โ€œAnnalise has been a somber old lady ever since her 90th birthday. It was like her personality changed overnight.โ€

โ€œPaul pitied the somber old ladies in the decaying bingo hall.โ€

How it Adds Description

An old lady who is constantly sad or serious can be described as โ€œsomber.โ€ Having a โ€œsomberโ€ attitude might make her difficult to converse with, as sheโ€™ll always emphasize the negative aspects of life. This might lead to her being isolated or having very few friends or carers.

 

9. Frail

Definition

Someone who isnโ€™t healthy or strong.

Examples

โ€œThe frail old lady hadnโ€™t gotten out of bed since 1901.โ€

โ€œPenny feared becoming a frail old lady, and so she did her strengthening yoga every morning.โ€

How it Adds Description

As you age, you lose mobility and strength skills. If your old lady is particularly weak or ill, you can call her โ€œfrail.โ€ A โ€œfrailโ€ character will likely rely on others for assistance. For example, they might do shopping for her or help her move around.

 

10. Little

Definition

Someone who is very small.

Examples

โ€œBob watched the little old lady water her flowers every afternoon. Sometimes, the flowers looked as tall as her!โ€

โ€œThe little old lady felt invisible when people pushed past her on the street.โ€

How it Adds Description

โ€œLittleโ€ shows that your old lady is either very thin or short and doesnโ€™t take up much physical space. This can lead to people ignoring her, as they donโ€™t notice her or donโ€™t believe her to be useful due to her lack of strength or power.

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