This post was originally published at Novelicious.com and is now at WritingTipsOasis.com. WritingTipsOasis.com acquired Novelicious.com in June 2022.
I think I have the perfect partner in my husband, heโs very motivational, pushing me upstairs into my writing room of an evening (has nothing to do with the darts/rugby league/snooker/football/superbike that is on TV, he tells me). But lately Iโve been thinking I may need a new partner. This is nothing do with my husbandโs choice to go watch to a football game on Valentineโs day. No, I think I need a writing partner…
Now, Iโm not talking about writing with someone, I donโt think I could ever do that โ Iโm a terrible sharer. But I was reading last week about a Match.com equivalent for writers; a website called Ladies Who Critique where you can sign up and connect with a critiquing buddy who also writes your genre.
Iโve never joined a writing group, mainly because I havenโt wanted to join a mixed group of genre writers. I guess I think that often chick lit is viewed as the poor relation in the literary world (undeservedly so) but I didnโt want to have to constantly defend my writing choices. I also donโt know whether Iโd trust non chick lit lovers to critique my work. I mean, I wouldnโt dream of reviewing a fantasy novel for a review site because Iโd have no idea about comparable works in the genre, so how could I critique a fantasy writer in a writing group?
So the idea that you could be paired with another writer from your genre sounded more appealing to me. But then I started wondering whether I could really trust someone I didnโt even know. What if I had a totally brilliant book and the person critiquing suggested a tweak that would ruin it forever more? Or if Iโm reading their book โ what if I give them the worst advice ever?
I have to admit that one of the best bits about publishing my ebook on Amazon is having comments from people I donโt know. I had a nice tweet conversation with one person in which we debated the ending, and I even toyed with changing the ending at the last minute. Maybe that is where your critiquing partner comes in handy?
If I did take the plunge and decided to try and find a writing partner, could I really just go on a website and find one? I know that people go on dates and some even marry people they met on internet dates (in my single days I did internet date โ albeit very disastrously) but somehow I find the idea of finding a critique partner online scarier! Am I being too cautious?
Iโd love to know what you think. Do you a have a critique partner? If so where did you find them? And if you donโt would you consider an online site to find them?

